I stood up for myself today.
I am generally a calm, soft-spoken person. I don’t say things to be mean, and generally, I try to keep my mouth shut as much as possible. The way I look at it, the less I speak, the less likely I will be to get in trouble.
But today was different.
I stood up for myself. And you know what? It felt victorious.
Lately I’ve found myself being a bit braver. And to tell you the truth, I can’t pinpoint exactly when it started. All I know, is that one day I started saying more of what was on my mind, and less of what I knew other people wanted to hear.
Now, you’re probably seeing warning signs everywhere and hearing alarms going off in the distance, saying, “this lady is crazy! She can’t do that!”
I know I’m crazy, but that’s beside the point.
So why did that moment feel so victorious to me? Well… Not to brag or anything, but I am REALLY good at people pleasing… So good in fact, that I forget how to please myself sometimes. But there comes a time when enough is enough. So being able to just tell someone something as small (or big, depending on how you look at it) as “please don’t try to guilt trip me into doing something”, well… it was a big deal.
Yes, I stood up for myself simply by asking someone not to guilt trip me. Some may not consider that a victorious or impressive act, but for a people pleaser like me, it was a small step in the right direction.
It’s okay to follow your own truth.
You don’t owe others an explanation for why you stood up for yourself or why you simply walked away from a situation or why you cut abusive / toxic people out of your life. You don’t owe someone an explanation for why you decided to take care of yourself for once. You do you.