So, you’ve recently found yourself in a blended family, huh?
Congrats! You’re in for the ride of your life.
Literally. Being a stepmom is going to be an emotional roller coaster. But girl, you got this.
There will be days when you’ll want to pull your hair out, and others when you’ll want to jump for joy over the slightest victory in your step child’s life. There’ll be times when the custody battle gets to be too much, and you’ll feel like you need to step away. I get that.
There will be many days that you wonder if you really belong in this family. You’ll think to yourself, “they have so many memories that don’t include me – memories that include the bio mom. How do I compete with that?”
The thing is, you don’t. Let them have those special memories. Sit and watch them play their secret games, and watch them have their special bedtime rituals. But don’t be afraid to jump in and make new memories with them. I know at first it will feel like you’re an outsider. But don’t let that feeling fool you: You ARE a part of this family. Own it.
If you have been struggling with your role as a stepmom, if you’ve felt like all of this is completely over your head, well, you’re in luck! In the next week or so, I am going to be doing a series – a guide if you will – on the ends and outs of stepmotherhood. This series will mostly cover custody cases, how to interact with bio-mom, and what to do if you and the step kids don’t get along. I hope you’ll join me!